The Power And Importance of NOT Communicating In A Marriage
In our last post we talked about the power and importance of communication in a marriage. But I also want to tell you that while communication is certainly key, it does not solve everything! There are certain times where NOT communicating is a better idea, in fact. For example, if you just hate something your partner is wearing and you say something to them in a hurtful tone, you’re definitely not using communication to your advantage. Just like you need to pick and choose your battles, you need to pick and choose what you communicate.
Also, the more time you spend with a person, the more you know how to push their buttons. You know exactly what can make them mad in a flash. You need to hold yourself back from making hurtful statements or you could be setting yourself up for a rocky relationship for years.
Finally, even when you take all the right steps to communicating, your partner might not respond like a textbook case. For instance, if you’re mirroring your partner’s thoughts they might take it the wrong way and think you’re mocking in some way. Being clear about your intentions is important. It’s also good to remember that those old methods of communicating just didn’t work. Still, it can take a little while to get used to the new ones.
