Here Is How I Fixed My Marriage Trouble…
Getting married is easy, staying married can be difficult. Anyone can get married, all it takes is a marriage license and a qualified person to conduct the ceremony. But it takes two mature adults to make a marriage work. Mature is the key word. To stay married, a couple has got to be committed to seeing a marriage through. Good times or bad times, it doesn’t matter. I am going to share a little of my marriage trouble with you. See if you recognize your marriage in the following paragraphs.
I first took notice of my marriage trouble after just three years of marriage. My husband starting acting a little strange. He wouldn’t talk much when he came home from work. He would either bury his face in the newspaper or veg out in front of the TV. I would try to start up a conversation, but he seemed very distant and acted like it was a chore to talk to me.
The next thing the pointed to my marriage trouble was the lack of physical contact that my husband would have with me. When we were first married, it seemed he could never keep his hands off of me. He liked to hold hands, playfully tap me on the rear or just put his arms around me while I was in the kitchen cooking or doing the dishes. But in the midst of my marriage trouble, he barely touched me at all.
As my marriage trouble continued, things just got worse. My husband became angry when I would question him. He started blaming me for all of the problems we were having. Things escalated until we were fighting every day.
One day I decided that I couldn’t take it any longer and I called a professional counselor. I went to the first appointment alone. The counselor had some very good advice on how to save my marriage and how to get my husband to open up to me about his feelings.
My counselor told me to stop blaming my husband for the problems we were having and to stop blaming myself for the problems. He said that marriages go through changes as people change and that we need to learn to adapt with these changes. He then gave me some great tips on how to start talking to my husband about what was bothering him.
After a few weeks of using the advice the counselor gave me, I was able to get my husband to open up about our marriage problems. He confessed to me that he had become resentful because I recently landed a very good job and was making twice the money that he was. He felt inadequate and felt like I did not need him anymore. I suggested counseling sessions for both of us and he reluctantly agreed to go.
I am very happy to report that my marriage trouble is over. It took a lot of time and dedication from both of us but we now love to spend time with each other again. So if you are having trouble in your marriage, seek help. With the right type of counseling you can have a long and happy marriage.