How To Save Your Marriage

Just a quick word today, I was reminded of this while talking to a friend recently… While you do need to be patient and make sure you communicate things the right way, you don’t want to completely ignore things problem areas of your marriage either. Now, this is different than “not sweating the small stuff.” Letting go of those things is very healthy. If there are real issues, however, you should not ignore them or let them go.

It might be that your spouse is just not ready at this point in time to make those changes. If that’s the case, you need to decide whether or not you can wait it out a bit longer. Another idea is to take a completely different approach. If something bothers you that much, there will be a way to fix it, it’s just a matter of finding the method that will connect with your partner.

In-laws are the source of many jokes. Some of these jokes are said in good fun, while others are speaking of deeper truths. In-laws can be hard to deal with for some couples!

For one thing, they raised your spouse. They have some sense of ownership over her life. If your plans and actions don’t always mesh with that, they may start to resent you. It’s a two way street — you might feel like they are meddling way too much.

The most important thing you need to remember is that your in-laws are there to stay. It doesn’t matter if you like them or not, they are something you have to deal with. That means it’s in your best interest to take the right steps to improve your relationship with them. In turn, your marriage will improve as well.

Here are some rules you need to live by when dealing with in-laws:

l    Never make your spouse choose between you
l    Support their relationship with your spouse
l    Don’t nitpick about them and the thins they do
l    Don’t say cruel things — even if they do
l    Set firm rules about the kids that you and your spouse agree on
l    Tell them you would prefer a phone call over a drop in
l    Respect, listen, and get to know them
l    Talk to them directly
l    Don’t change yourself to fit their standards or it will lead to resentment
l    Get to know them — you might like what you find