How To Love Your Spouse Unconditionally
Building your foundation right and increasing commitment and trust are extremely important. One huge element that is missing, however, is a complete understanding of what love is and how it works in your relationship. Once you grasp this, you’ll be a lot further on your journey to turning your marriage around for the better.
Understanding unconditional love is half the battle!
Unconditional love is when you love someone no matter what they do. No matter how many times they let you down, you still love them.
Notice that this is very different from the love feelings you get when you first started dating. If you’ve seen the movie Bambi, you might call this “twitterpated”. It didn’t seem to matter what your partner did back then, and their faults were probably even cute! While it’s a sweet notion, that is not true, unconditional love.
Unconditional love is when you are fully aware of the things that are wrong, you’re fully aware of the faults, but your love goes deeper than those faults. It does not mean that you don’t get mad — quite the contrary. Sometimes this type of love means showing “tough love” and doing what you can to help the other person improve.
Unconditional love is easy to ignore and easy to squash as well. Since it feels so different than those first pangs of love, people often think that it’s not love at all. They think the love has gone out of their relationship, when really it’s just shifted and expanded.
You need to recognize this change. You and your spouse need to be aware that the state of your relationship shifts over time. Still, the love is always there and should always be there. It just might take a little bit more work than usual to get it out in the open.
