Be Honest With Your Spouse…ASK Them to Change!
If there is something you want your spouse to change, first off you’re going to need to respect the virtues of being patient. Once you realize that old habits die hard, you can really do the required work it will take to change them. Show your spouse some empathy, but explain your side of things.
Be careful how you phrase this! Saying “you need to fix this now” will not get you as good of a response as “I was wondering if you would consider X”. Another tactic is to present an idea, but lead your spouse to come to their own conclusions.
We often resist things when we are told or commanded to do them. On the other hand, if we come up with the idea ourselves (even if it’s really the same idea) we take ownership of it. Not being forceful and, yes, being patient are key here.
