How To Save Your Marriage

Consider the effects on children, for example. Children who come from divorced homes are more likely to have emotional problems, learning and focus issues in school, and poor outlooks on life. Now, keep in mind that the same things can happen to children who are in a home where fighting is a daily occurrence, but we’re going to banish that as well. Staying together really can be good for the sake of your children IF you follow this guide.

Divorce is extremely stressful for children. It’s so easy to get caught up in the proceedings of divorce that the needs of the children are not taken care of. Because of this, young children tend to regress developmentally and adolescents tend to lash out or withdraw completely.

Children tend to go through the following stages when their parents get a divorce:

l    Denial
l    Abandonment
l    Obsession
l    Anger
l    Depression
l    Immaturity/increase in maturity
l    Fantasy of reconciliation
l    Guilt
l    Acting out

Of course, children aren’t the only ones who are affected. The adults who are involved go through many different (negative) stages as well. This just isn’t something you really want to bring into your life!

Divorce…one BIG FAT lie.  Unfortunately divorce has been glamorized to a certain extent by the media, celebrities, and other divorced couples you may know.

Everyone has seen the newly divorced man or woman who throws a party and is just glowing with excitement.  But what we don’t always see are the tears, depression, and hurt feelings that last a lifetime.

Don’t be like everyone else.  You’re going to be different.  You’re not going to give up! You’re going to do whatever you can to stay married to the love of your life.

Let me give you some statistics on divorce (they are quite sobering):

The Enrichment Journal on the divorce rate in America (2008) says:

l    Divorce rate for first marriages is 41%
l    Divorce rate for second marriage is 60%
l    Divorce rate for third marriage is 73%

…And believe it or not, these numbers are down from a few years back! It’s no wonder that divorce has become such a cultural phenomenon. It has almost become accepted and just a way of life for people to give up on their spouse. Since it’s so common it is almost seen as being no big deal by many people out there.  But the truth is that it is a very big deal.

The effects after divorce can be catastrophic. Many people (especially women) are at poverty levels after divorce. Even those who consider themselves fairly well off struggle with money and the division of assets. Depression, grief, and guilt are very common at this stage. One or both parties may wish they hadn’t gone through with it, and it feels like the death of their old lifestyle.

Clearly, the effects of divorce are not something that can be glamorized. It is a devastating time that can literally affect you for the rest of your life. That is why it’s so important to do what you can now. Let’s be honest, you still love your spouse dearly, and they love you as well. It’s just a matter of a breakdown in communication, and losing touch with what love really is.

Soon I’m going to go in depth with some action steps to ensure that you’re not going to have to deal with these things. Your marriage is going to be saved!