How To Save Your Marriage

Okay I’m not going to sugarcoat this…if your wife hates you, then your situation is obviously not good (pretty obvious, right?).  So what are you to do?

Well, first of all, if you’re hitting the Internet looking for solutions then obviously you *want* to change this situation.  Good for yoU!  Because that’s the first thing you have to get straight in your mind….that you are to NOT give up!  Okay?  Let me say it again:

DO NOT GIVE UP - KEEP ON HOLDING OUT HOPE EVEN IF YOUR WIFE HATES YOU!

Giving up is easy.  Giving up is what you may “feel” like doing much of the time.  Giving up is maybe what some of your friends are telling you to do.  But giving up is a FOOLISH thing to do when your wife hates you.  Why?  Let me tell you the reasons….

1) If you give up, you have ZERO chance of turning things around with your wife.  Seems like an obvious statement right?  But it’s true…if you throw in the towel she’ll continue hating you and you’ll continue to be miserable.  No good.

2) If you give up, you’re probably just going to become bitter (or more bitter!).  Life isn’t always easy, there’s no doubt about it.  But everything worth pursuing in life takes effort, and some of it takes a FIGHT.  Yes I know it’s a fight to not give up, but keep fighting!

3) And the 3rd reason not to give up when your wife hates you?  Because there really *is* hope.  Because people in your situation *have* turned it around in the past.  Because there really are those success stories of people reclaiming their marriage and reuniting stronger than ever with their spouse!

If you need a little hope, if you need a little direction…please check out the following resource I’ve written…it’s not free, but I think you’ll find it well worth it in exchange for what you get.  Good luck my friend….

Consider the effects on children, for example. Children who come from divorced homes are more likely to have emotional problems, learning and focus issues in school, and poor outlooks on life. Now, keep in mind that the same things can happen to children who are in a home where fighting is a daily occurrence, but we’re going to banish that as well. Staying together really can be good for the sake of your children IF you follow this guide.

Divorce is extremely stressful for children. It’s so easy to get caught up in the proceedings of divorce that the needs of the children are not taken care of. Because of this, young children tend to regress developmentally and adolescents tend to lash out or withdraw completely.

Children tend to go through the following stages when their parents get a divorce:

l    Denial
l    Abandonment
l    Obsession
l    Anger
l    Depression
l    Immaturity/increase in maturity
l    Fantasy of reconciliation
l    Guilt
l    Acting out

Of course, children aren’t the only ones who are affected. The adults who are involved go through many different (negative) stages as well. This just isn’t something you really want to bring into your life!

Divorce…one BIG FAT lie.  Unfortunately divorce has been glamorized to a certain extent by the media, celebrities, and other divorced couples you may know.

Everyone has seen the newly divorced man or woman who throws a party and is just glowing with excitement.  But what we don’t always see are the tears, depression, and hurt feelings that last a lifetime.

Don’t be like everyone else.  You’re going to be different.  You’re not going to give up! You’re going to do whatever you can to stay married to the love of your life.

Let me give you some statistics on divorce (they are quite sobering):

The Enrichment Journal on the divorce rate in America (2008) says:

l    Divorce rate for first marriages is 41%
l    Divorce rate for second marriage is 60%
l    Divorce rate for third marriage is 73%

…And believe it or not, these numbers are down from a few years back! It’s no wonder that divorce has become such a cultural phenomenon. It has almost become accepted and just a way of life for people to give up on their spouse. Since it’s so common it is almost seen as being no big deal by many people out there.  But the truth is that it is a very big deal.